Advice Columnist Adie Azurewrath is a Ren’dorei ranger with a gift for problem solving and putting things in perspective. Azurewrath provides common-sense solutions to dilemmas both IC and OOC.
My roleplay partner is roleplaying with other people and not with me. I can see them on battletag but they’re not playing with me. I think my partner is cheating on me. What should I do?
— Generic Letter Guy
You must be feeling pretty abandoned right now and there are a few things we can try to do to fix your problem but first we need to talk about boundaries.
A roleplay partnership is typically a non-exclusive partnership where two or more players agree to write together. This means they’re not cheating on you when they’re playing with other people and there’s nothing to be upset about. Remember, your partner is their own person and they should have space to breathe.
A partner being online but not playing with you doesn’t mean they don’t like you anymore. They may simply enjoy playing with multiple people. They could also be playing other areas of the game like PvE or PvP, they could also be AFK working on coursework, eating dinner, or doing real life chores.
Your partner also might be dealing with creative block and don’t have any ideas on how to continue your roleplay.
However, if your partner has not reached out to you for a few days, there’s no harm in making the first move. Say hello! Ask them how they’re doing. If they are fine, you can ask if they have time for roleplay or plotting out ideas together. If they’re not fine, just let them be until their life calms down. But don’t push it, this may send signals that you have boundary issues and may scare your partner away.
Sometimes long-term partners may go for a while without playing together. Sometimes threads get dropped. This doesn’t mean that it’s the end, it just means life happens. A healthy partnership can always pick up again when life has calmed down.
Best of luck in all your roleplay endeavors,
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